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you see how I grow upon your goodness: but it is so frank [generous]that one cannot but grow on it. I do not foresee however that I shall impose upon it but once more. that will be by & bye, when I am ready at Monticello for carpets. the handsomest I ever saw was on your floor … were mrs Edwards or yourself in traversing Philadelphia ever to have your eye caught by any as handsome as that, I should surely ask you to arrest it for me.
To Enoch Edwards, May 7, 1801
Patrick Lee’s Explanation
Leaders need honest friends they can trust completely.
In a previous post, Jefferson commissioned Edwards, a Philadelphia-area physician, to arrange for a carriage to be made for him. Earlier in this letter, he asked Edwards to stop in at a certain art dealer’s shop and inquire about the price of a Samuel Adams portrait there. (Chances are Jefferson subsequently acquired that portrait, but I can’t say for sure.)
Now, Jefferson expressed his growing appreciation for his Revolutionary War era friend and fellow patriot. He was drawn in by the man’s openness and honesty. Edwards made it easy for others to rely on his judgment.
Not wanting to abuse the relationship, Jefferson asked only one last favor. If Edwards or his wife ever happened to find carpets in Philadelphia as “handsome” as the ones he had seen in their home, they were to “arrest” (buy) them for him. Such was his confidence in them, Jefferson didn’t need to know the price or give prior approval.
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I received one day a note from the Marquis de la Fayette, informing me that he should bring a party of six or eight friends to ask a dinner of me the next day … These were leading patriots, of honest but differing opinions sensible of the necessity of effecting a coalition by mutual sacrifices, knowing each other, and not afraid therefore to unbosom themselves mutually. This last was a material principle in the selection …
Patrick Lee’s Explanation
Leaders need privacy, trust and encouragement to speak openly.
The French national assembly needed to make a proposal to the King regarding future governance. With too many competing interests, they were unable to reach an agreement. This post and the next two will highlight essential principles in bringing unity out of conflict.
1. One person took the lead.
2. A neutral meeting place was chosen by the leader.
3. An uninvolved individual facilitated the gathering.
4. The meeting began with a meal.
5. The attendees were all influential leaders.
6. They were honest patriots committed to a common cause.
7. Although they differed, they understood a unified coalition was essential.
8. Each man would have to give up something to create that coalition.
9. They knew one another well enough to be able to speak freely.
Others might have been invited except for # 9: Familiarity with one another, and the resulting trust that came with it, allowed the risk-taking necessary to speak honestly. This was essential if there was to be any chance of success.